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From time to time, I've thought to myself I'd like to find more sports-related books for my children.

Today I opened a care package from my mother. Inside, were the usual niceties she likes to send: activity books for the kids, some little notepads and stickers, some coupons and...a book.

The book was called Winning. A Novel by Robin Brancato.

This book looked familiar to me.  I thought, 'Oh, my parents must have found one of my old books up in the attic, and decided to include it in the care package.'

Well, yes and no.  It was one of my old books. Inside, was the elaborate scrawl that I used to sign my books with, along with the date I had acquired it. April 9, 1988.  In the corner someone had penciled $3.00, so it was clearly bought second-hand from my local Wynnefield Library book sale (remember, the most beautiful library in the world)

I don't know why I had picked it up as a teenager, actually, since I never really liked sports-themed books.
As it turned out, though, Winning is the story of a young football player whose life is turned upside down by tragedy, so not a typical sports story at all.  Although I only read this one once, it was an extremely compelling read.

But when I left home to go to graduate school in 1993, I remember giving away a bunch of my old books to a local Goodwill, a few towns away from my parent's house in Philadelphia. Winning was one of those books.

In the note I received today, my mother wrote: "We found this book in the Overbrook Train Station Book Swap." The Overbrook train station is just a few blocks from my parent's home in Philadelphia.


So,  almost exactly TWENTY YEARS LATER, the book returned to my parents, and they returned it to me.  Where has the book been for twenty years?  I'll never know.

I do know I will save it for my children to read--I don't think they would have ever read this amazing story otherwise.

But maybe this is just a reminder that sometimes when you throw a question to the universe, you never know how you'll be answered...and perhaps that's the fun of it.


What do you think? Have you ever tossed a question to the universe and seen it answered in strange ways?


 
 
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Can Jung explain coincidence?
_I was reading a mystery today, enjoying the story, when I was brought to a screeching halt. The author had introduced a rather significant coincidence into the story--two seemingly unrelated events--which of course became pivotal to the plot.

I wasn't bothered by the coincidence, but rather by how easily the heroine assumed that these events--a distant relative's death from natural causes and the disappearance of a local person--just HAD to be connected. It felt a bit clumsy, a bit contrived.  
I know that history is full of crazy coincidences, but  as a reader, I wasn't sure that it worked.

I felt a little manipulated by the author.

HOWEVER, my husband, a cognitive psychologist, had a different take.  He said that the character's insistence that the events had to be linked exemplifies two things. First, that people naturally look for patterns, even when no patterns exist. Second, people feel the need to account for extraordinary events with extraordinary explanations, even when a common explanation would suffice (also called the "Spectacular Explanation Fallacy.")


So, for example, have you ever  been humming a tune, and when you next turn on the radio, that same tune is playing?  Or have  you ever dreamed about a friend, and the next day she calls you? Strange, right?

But how do you explain it?   A divine being at work?  ESP? Fate? Alignment of the planets?  Jung's collective unconscious? Producers manipulating your life? (okay, think Truman Show for the last one).

So I'm curious about two things:
Have you ever been thrown off by a coincidence that seemed too jarring to be credible, as either a reader or as a viewer?   Have you ever experienced a coincidence that's stranger than fiction?  So, ultimately, should a coincidence be plausible?